How to deal with annoying people
50 Things You Do Everyday That Annoy Other People
Here’s my top annoyances
Not holding the door for the person behind you
Talking ad nauseam about how busy you are
Looking at your phone when you’re talking to someone in person
Parking too close to the line in a parking lot
Talking at the movies
Wearing too much fragrance
Going to an express checkout with more than 10 items
Not replacing the toilet paper roll
Leaving the toilet seat up
Stopping short while walking
Sniffing loudly instead of blowing your nose
Blocking the sidewalk to get a photo
Texting while walking
Bringing pungent food to work
Who is that person in your life? Next question, are they in the room.
Some people have labeled these folks as EGR’s or extra grace required people. If you can’t think of someone like that in your life, I’ve got some bad news for you. It’s probably you.
Here’s what I know about difficult people.
We all have difficult people in our lives.
You are someone’s difficult person.
I don’t like to think that I’m someone’s difficult person, but I know I am. Just ask my staff and they will tell you.
Let me give you one last fact about difficult people that you probably haven’t thought about. Ready? Here goes. You cannot become your fullest, most complete self without these difficult people.
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4
If you’ve been around long enough you’ve come to realize that it is the difficult times that have grown you. Would you agree with that? Next question. Where do those difficult times come from 90% of the time. Difficult times come from difficult people.
We cannot become the people we were intended to be without difficult people.
Why would God allow difficult people in my life? Have you ever had that thought. If we asked that of God here’s what I think He’d say. “What other kind of people are there?”
The second question I’d ask God is this. Why did you put the difficult people in my life so close to me? In fact, let me take that a step further. My guess is, that for many of you, the difficult person isn’t just close to you. You live with them. Some of you married your difficult person. Others of you gave birth to them.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Wives, if you want the best chance to have a good relationship with your husband, learn to submit to him. Put him first. Maybe that seems offensive to you. Why would you do such a thing. Because, according to God that’s what love looks like.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:3,4
Value others above yourself. That’s what it means to love someone else. That’s what Jesus modeled for us. If you keep reading in Philippians 2:5 you would read this
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;7 rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. Philippians 2:5-7
This is what it means to love. Submit to each other. Put their needs above yours. It’s what Jesus did.
Maybe the problem in your marriage isn’t the husband. It’s the wife. In that case here are some words for husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church.
Husbands, how are you to love your wife. Like Christ loved the church. Anyone here remember what Christ did for the church? He died for it. Wives if your husband ever says to you “Submit woman” here’s your response. “Sure I’ll submit to you, as soon as you die.”
Maybe it’s not your marriage that is the problem. Maybe it’s your relationship with your kid. If so, turn the page to chapter 6
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”[a] 4 Fathers,[b] do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
If the difficult person is your child, here’s Gods word for you. Don’t exasperate your child.
I have notice a couple of problems in my behavior when my kid is angry with me
1. When my kid comes to me angry and irritated I respond angry and irritated.
2. When my kid comes to me angry and irritated over and over I tend to pull away. “I don’t need to be treated like that. Don’t ever ask me for anything you ungrateful punk.”
Do you know when we prove how much we love our kids. When they are our difficult person.
Jesus put it like this If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? Matthew 5:46
Sometimes it’s not the kid that is the problem. It’s the parent. If your a kid with difficult parents what are you supposed to do? Well, you’re not going to like this, but here goes. Obey your parents. Honor them. Do what they say. Go one step further. Ask their advice about your life.
Here’s the way it works most of the time.
A wife that submits to her husband is loved.
A husband that loves is submitted to.
Children that obey their parents have parents that are not exasperated.
Parent’s that aren’t always frustrated and angry have children that obey them.
This is a life lesson. Let me put it simply. My goal in life is not to fix the difficult people in my life. There is only one difficult person in my life that I can actually change. That’s me.
You know, I have to be honest with you. When I focus on growing me and working on my stuff rather than focusing on everyone else, it doesn’t always change the people around me. It’s not a guarantee for perfect relationships. People will still treat you poorly and still talk about you and hurt you. Living this way is not a guarantee. But here is one thing I can guarantee. You will change. You will mature. You will get better.